Starting a new job can be both exhilarating and daunting, especially when your position places you in authority over a team. I’ve found myself in this situation a few times, and the experience has been nothing short of an actual RedPill by itself.
I’m sharing some examples of my recent gig because some autistic kid decided to be too retarded to STFU and follow some unspoken rules that apply to online/RL situations if you want to succeed in any space or sphere and gain some respect.
The Power of Reputation
From the moment of my arrival at the workplace, I was greeted with a level of recognition I hadn't anticipated. From the armed security personnel at the gates to the janitor cleaning the bathrooms, everyone knew about who I was and was eager to meet me. This immediate recognition gave me a taste of the "celebrity treatment," where people were not only welcoming but also willing to extend their support to gain your approval.
Throughout my career, I've dedicated myself to building a solid reputation in my field. Even now, I receive calls and messages (even pictures of my old office or places we used to hang in) from former colleagues and bosses who remember our time together, reminisce about the good old days, and wish I would go back to working there.
Build your reputation and guard it with everything you have, you never know when will you be hired just because someone “heard” about how good you are, and pay you a shit ton of money just for existing, kinda like a chick.
Leading Without Commanding
One thing I noticed as I grew older, and gained more experience, every word I spoke carried weight, without intentionally exerting authority or commanding directly.
If anything, this is a testament to the power of your reputation, and what people perceive of you. Whether it was during conversations over a smoke break, or in formal meetings.
People were always paying attention when I spoke, fighting over my time and knowledge, and engaging in discussions to get my opinion on certain topics.
For example, during one management meeting, everyone was looking so bored, fiddling with their phones as every manager took turns to give updates on their department. But when it was my turn, phones were placed on the table, chairs started to turn my way eyes were glued on me and their attention was 100% during those 5-10 minutes I spoke in.
The way you carry yourself and speak plays a huge part, and there are tricks to hook people and make them feel part of something and not sound boringly monotone reading off of a piece of paper, but that’s a different topic.
Navigating Group Dynamics
As the newest addition to the team, I knew it was crucial not to overstep boundaries or appear arrogant, especially in the first few days, if not weeks.
This was a lesson I learned from past mistakes in my younger years when I sometimes let my ego get the best of me. Now, I recognize that the ability to "STFU" is a superpower in itself.
You need to listen and observe more than you open your mouth.
Being Part of the Group
Integrating seamlessly into an established group requires finesse and using your brain to think before you open your mouth. It's about understanding the existing dynamics, identifying key players, and finding your place within the team's ecosystem. In most cases, you won't immediately become the “Alpha Male” of the group; there's an art to gaining that status.
To achieve this:
Observe and Listen:
Listen more than you speak.
Observe how people interact with each other.
Pay attention to the words and lingo they use, including inside jokes.
Every workplace has its unique “language” and humor.
Effective Communication:
Learn to speak their language.
Understand the jokes to the point that you fit in quickly.
It took me a day and a half of observing to integrate myself and learn to speak their language, understand the jokes to the point a few people said “You fitted in so fast you sound like you’ve been working here for years man!”, it might take you longer depending on your position and how people react to you, or how fast your brain neurons fire up.
Learn to be Charming
Effective leadership hinges on the cultivation of charismatic skills that project a positive and approachable presence. The goal is to garner not just respect for your position but genuine likability and respect for you as a leader.
Demonstrate Your Value as a Leader
Leadership goes beyond authority and policy enforcement.
It involves guiding, teaching, and mentoring your team.
True leadership fosters an environment where trust and respect lead to willing followers, not fearful obedience.
Avoid the Pitfalls of Authoritarian Leadership
Relying solely on authority will make you that asshole that everyone hates.
Authoritarian leaders may achieve short-term results but risk damaging group morale and collaboration.
Prioritize building positive relationships with your team for enduring success.
Let me be clear, sharing these insights and experiences isn’t about me flexing online to gain internet points.
I’ve mentioned it a few times and emphasized that my expertise comes with a price most won’t be able to afford, and those who can probably don’t need my help.
I’m doing this because sometimes I’m in a good mood to share knowledge, and hopefully out of the million retards out there, few will find it useful and make something for themselves.
Now stop being a retard and stepping on your own dick and win at life, anon.
Leading without commanding. I've heard a number of you in this space talk about it but it still eludes me. Have you written more on this?